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"...As you can see, a man, as he gets older, searches for relatively younger and younger women. Meanwhile his upper acceptable limit hovers only a token amount above his own age. The median 31 year-old guy, for example, sets his allowable match age range from 22 to 35—nine years younger, but only four years older, than himself. This skewed mindset worsens with age; the median 42 year-old will accept a woman up to fifteen years younger, but no more than three years older."
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Date: 2010-02-17 07:10 pm (UTC):o)
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Date: 2010-02-17 07:11 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-02-20 08:45 pm (UTC)If there is any reason why an older man might be more willing to date an older woman than a younger man would be, then the odometer analogy doesn't work.
Fascinating.
I wonder how much I throw that off; I'm 26, and my range is set for 20-38 (although sometimes I change it to 18-40).
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Date: 2010-02-17 07:16 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-02-17 07:42 pm (UTC)I can definitely understand why so many women, especially attractive women, lie about their age on dating sites.
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Date: 2010-02-17 07:45 pm (UTC)It's not until their 40s that they reduce messages to 18 year old and the bottom of the yellow zone is 22 year olds. Even then, the forty year olds might just stop sending messages to 18 year-olds because they don't get replies anymore.
It might be that the stated minimums are not their actual minimums, but instead they don't want to appear like too much of a creeper even though they still are creepers.
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Date: 2010-02-17 07:53 pm (UTC)dating young is fun, but they're pretty *because* they're young. you want something longer lasting, then you catch a hot gal who's 35. there's a much higher chance she's hot because who she is, what she does matches up with yer definition of hot rather than just unspun telomeres. that goes for mind and body.
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Date: 2010-02-17 08:27 pm (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2010-02-18 12:42 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-02-20 08:47 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-02-18 06:58 pm (UTC)A person could be forgiven for thinking this was written by an upper middleaged divorced woman who lives alone with many cats.
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Date: 2010-02-20 08:47 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-02-20 09:53 pm (UTC)Preferences are just that, preferences. I don't think it's right to criticize people for their preferences simply because one may not agree with it.
I think middle aged divorced women who seek men their own age have an issue with this particular preference, not out of any odd sociological position but simply because it narrows their pool of potential paramours.
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Date: 2010-02-21 12:03 am (UTC)However, there may be facts about the distribution of preferences among a group that are unfortunate, even if no one in particular can be blamed - for instance, if far more men prefer blond female partners than there are blond females, while far fewer men prefer females of other hair colors than there are females of those hair colors that are interested in men. This situation is similar - far more men prefer young women than there are young women, and fewer men prefer older women than there are older women who are interested in men.
I think you don't have to be in the group that's disadvantaged to see that there's something unfortunate about the distribution of preferences.