Suggestion for OKCupid

[archerships]

Dating sites should allow people to check what kind of contact they would a) like to receive b) like to give. For example, you might have a list on your profile page like this:

chat via IM
chat via phone
have coffee
have lunch
have dinner
have drinks
rollerskating
iceskating
hiking
walk in the park
walk on the beach
etc.

You might also have a list for physical contact:

kiss on the cheek
kiss on the hand
kiss on the lips
hold hands
brief hug
long hug
etc.

Someone browsing your profile could see your list, and check those items that they would be willing to give to you. You would receive a notice that the person would like contact with you, and proffer up their list of ways they would like to be contacted. If you match, then those choices on which you both matched would be revealed. You might also allow people the ability to put up custom contact preferences. Of course, there should be a way to turn off or limit the number of notifications. I often browse through a lot of profiles, many of whom I wouldn't mind contacting in some fashion. But I only contact those few that seem highly likely to respond.

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Comments

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

Do you meet a lot of girls that won't hug you?

[crasch.livejournal.com]

Not after they see my furniture.

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

I kinda don't see the point of using a dating site if you aren't interested in um DATING and physical contact, I guess.

[crasch.livejournal.com]

Most people want physical contact, of course. What about such a list makes you think it would preclude such contact? If anything, I think it would enhance it, since it make it easier for shy people to make their desires known.

[herbaliser.livejournal.com]

Your ShyDating.com will get NO vc funding, sorry.

[crasch.livejournal.com]

You can't crush my dreams!

[browascension.livejournal.com]

To some people, dating implies physical contact, and to other people, it doesn't. The "does imply" group is much larger. But still.