“He snapped my bra like a Concord taking off, and I was unhooked for love.”

[archerships]

A friend of mine recently posted what she’s looking for in a mate. Inspired, I decided to make one of my own.

Strong wants/must haves

Intelligent

Loves to read. Knows what makes a good argument. Understands the principles of statistical reasoning (i.e. knows the difference between a controlled experiment and an uncontrolled experiment). Can write and speak well.

Kind

Never does something to be deliberately hurtful. Treats all people with respect, not just those who can advance her agenda. Never says unkind things about someone’s personal foibles. Looks for the best in others.

Honest

Tells the truth, as she sees it. Admits when she is wrong.

Responsibile

Pays bills on time. Does what she says she will do. Works hard at her job.

Sexy

Makes me hot and bothered. Enjoys both cuddling and sex. Thinks I’m sexy.

Curious

Thirsts for new knowledge and new experiences. Willing to try new things. Can’t imagine ever running out of things to do, even if given an infinite lifespan.

Healthful

Committed to maintaining and improving her body’s health and beauty. Eats lots of fruits and vegetables. Exercises regularly. Uses recreational drugs in moderation.

Likes Kids

Wants to have kids. Believes in giving kids a lot of love, freedom, and responsibility.

Self-reliant

Supports stocking up on food, guns, and other supplies. Wants to stay out of debt.

Creative

Has some creative outlet–doesn’t particularly matter what it is. Could be writing, painting, algorithms, music, sculpture, dance, etc.

Good Humor

Likes to laugh. Finds joy in small things. Laughs at my jokes. Makes me laugh.

Cooperative

Listens to what I have to say. Willing to look for mutually agreeable compromises. Doesn’t demand immediate tit for tat. Thinks long term. Patient with my faults.

Communicative

Likes talking with me about a wide variety of subjects. Tells me what she wants and needs.

Optimistic

Generally upbeat and optimistic about the future. Doesn’t dwell on her problems.

Miscellaneous

Will honor my desire to be cryopreserved and to cryopreserve my children if need be.

Would like to have

Wants to have her head frozen.
Likes pets (cats, dogs, whatever)
Wants to live on a floating platform in the middle of the ocean.
Clean and organized
Wants to become a hyperintelligent cloud of nanobots travelling through space at the speed of light.
Knows differential calculus.
Rides a motorcycle.
Knows how to tie knots.
Likes to dance.
Hearty. Not easily dissuaded by harsh environments. If she likes going to Burning Man, she’s probably hearty.
Resilient. Easily bounces back from hardship.
Flexible. Could be happy living anywhere from a small town to the big city, here or abroad.
Outgoing, makes friends easily.
Indifferent to fashion

Tolerable foibles

Absentminded (forgets birthdays, purse)
Imperfect body (some flab, wrinkles okay)
Messy
Imperfect eating, spending habits.
Lack of confidence
Religious belief. Buddhism is probably okay. Some forms of Christianity, such as Deism, will also work.
Crazy family.
Terrible at telling jokes/funny stories
Shy
Impatient

Deal breakers

Smokes regularly.
Doesn’t want kids. ( I’m in no great rush to have kids, but I would like to have them someday. )
Cruel.
Dishonest. Has affairs, skips out on debts.
Excessively religious. If you demand that I go to church on Sunday, or think I’m going to hell because I don’t believe as you do, it probably won’t work out.

Original: craschworks - comments

Comments

[crasch.livejournal.com]

Any future science capable of reviving frozen heads will be able to recreate big spankable asses on demand.

[reichart.livejournal.com]

There is some compelling evidence that while you might make it back, you might be in pain for a long long time if you have to rewire a lot more if you don't get a good chunk of that spine. assuming being humanoid is in your plans.

[crasch.livejournal.com]

If I come back, I expect it will be via a brain scan into an advanced robot. So I don't expect to experience much pain.

[reichart.livejournal.com]

Removing pain is a much bigger invention than brain transplants brought back from the dead.

(note, I'm not nay saying...I'm as hopeful as you, I hope we solve "pain" soon).

BSA

[(Anonymous)]

I don't know how I am going to work this into a workout name but it is worth the effort. I think I would just take these and call it good:

Knows differential calculus.
Rides a motorcycle.
Knows how to tie knots.

To that I would add: can understand the concept of "food as fuel" and eats that way as conditions arise but doesn't eat that way as general rule.

[xleste.livejournal.com]

I love it!
Where in the world did you get the awesome pictures? :)

[crasch.livejournal.com]

I think I started with a search for "bad romance novels", and one thing led to another...

[ersigh.livejournal.com]

"Good Humor

Likes to laugh. Finds joy in small things. Laughs at my jokes. "

You forgot, "Makes me laugh".

It's a good list. A fair amount of it would be on my list if I actually were to create one.

[crasch.livejournal.com]

Good point!

[madbard.livejournal.com]

A good list, but I wouldn't emphasize the cryogenics-friendliness. It's an idea that people may warm up to over time, but be skeptical towards initially.

[integreillumine.livejournal.com]

The platform-living and living life as a cloud of nano-bots might be considered a bit 'on/past the edge' to some, too. ;)

[madbard.livejournal.com]

Maybe for you people with low standards.

hey, I said 'some'!

[integreillumine.livejournal.com]

Though I have an intuition that we've similar reservations.

[crasch.livejournal.com]

Note those are under the "would like to have" heading. Guys gotta dream!

[crasch.livejournal.com]

I don't expect her to be willing to sign up for cryonics (although that would be nice). I recognize that the pool of women who are a priori cryonics supportors is minuscule.

What I'm looking for is someone who is not hostile to the idea, and wouldn't try to prevent me from being frozen.

[kindofstrange.livejournal.com]

I can't even imagine denying someone else the right to be frozen. That's just bizarre.

[crasch.livejournal.com]

Well, from the wive's perspective, her mate is paying large sums of money (50 - 150 K) to have his head cut off by a creepy cult, instead of giving it to her. Imagine if your spouse planned to leave his money to Scientology.

Also, historically, many people who signed up did so after they married, so cryonics was not something initially on the table. We have a lot of ritual and taboos surrounding death, and all of it is upended by cryonics. Death may not be pleasant, but it is an "end". With cryonics, the spouse is in this limbo state. All sorts of questions arise, such as:

"Should she remarry?"
"Will he come back?"
"What if the cryonics facility goes out of business?" "How much attention does she owe him while he is cryopreserved?"
"Should she be working to raise money to revive him?"

[kindofstrange.livejournal.com]

Yeah, to me if he's paying for it with his money, go for it. I'm not kosher on someone bringing it up after getting involved and then saying 'oh by the way I'm going to need half of that cash from you', so I suppose I can understand that side of things. I'm just not really big on shared/pooled assets though, which is a bit odd to some I suppose.

I just feel like two adults should be able to sort all of that out in a reasonable manner. "Yes, I will have my head frozen, but I'd like you to remarry if that is what you want in life", etc.

[integreillumine.livejournal.com]

It's a good list. If you make an ad, it would be good to present what you would bring to the relationship, too. :)

Personally, I've been spoiled by dating athiest types. Going back to dating even 'spiritual but not religious' types even for a short time was pretty disorienting; even the 'ex'-religious boys seem to have weird disconnects about sex.

[crasch.livejournal.com]

If you make an ad, it would be good to present what you would bring to the relationship, too. :)

I agree!

I've been spoiled by dating atheist types.

Yeah, you're fortunate that the 2:1 atheist men:atheist women ratio works in your favor. :>

[kindofstrange.livejournal.com]

Yeah, you're fortunate that the 2:1 atheist men:atheist women ratio works in your favor

Damn straight! It's awesome.

[jenarael.livejournal.com]

We are so perfect for each other. I've always wanted to go to BM, I speak three languages badly, and I'm a nonsmoking macrobiotic yoga-performing musical hippie biologist.

AND I KNOW DIFFERENTIAL CALCULUS.

Want to go get some thai, rent a kayak for a day and then smoke peyote while discussing the meaning of life?

You had me at "differential calculus"

[crasch.livejournal.com]

I'll bring the peyote, if you bring the kayak.